The Path to the Acceptance of Gay Marriage

What path did society take, so as to arrive at its current acceptance of same-sex marriage? It is this same path, in reverse, that society must travel to reverse its acceptance of gay marriage.

1. The first step on that path was the widespread acceptance of sex outside of marriage. Sexual activity became disconnected from the marital relationship. And since most persons do not wish to raise children outside of marriage, sex also became disconnected from procreation. Society presented sex as a form of recreation and self-fulfillment.

2. Contraception and abortion then became necessary to maintain this idea of sex without the responsibility of marriage and children. So the second step was the widespread approval of abortion and contraception, including abortifacient contraception. Without contraception and abortion, widespread sex outside of marriage in society would lead to children and marriage. And the looming possibility of children would then make promiscuity and premarital sex seem less desirable.

3. The third step was the widespread acceptance of unnatural sexual acts. I’ve noticed an increasing mention in entertainment shows over the last thirty year or so, of various types of sex that are not inherently capable of procreation. (I don’t need to be explicit in my language here. The reader understands what is being referenced.) The entertainment industry reflects the degradation in society of sexual ethics, and also has a role in driving that degradation. As a result, all manner of unnatural sexual acts, in marriage and outside of marriage, are now viewed by society as good and moral. But the traditional Catholic teaching (Augustine, Aquinas, Liguori) is that unnatural sexual acts are always gravely immoral, even in marriage. (See my previous post on this topic.) Such acts are intrinsically evil. To be moral, each and every sexual act must be marital, unitive, and procreative.

If sex is moral regardless of marital state, if sex has no inherent moral connection to procreation or marriage, if unnatural sexual acts are as moral as natural marital relations open to life, then same-sex relationships would seem to be moral also. The acceptance of gay marriage implies the acceptance of unnatural sexual acts, as well as sex outside of marriage.

No one who accepts gay marriage as moral, also holds that sex outside of marriage is immoral. I’m going to say this again for emphasis. Everyone who accepts same-sex marriage as a true type of marriage also rejects the traditional Christian teaching against sex outside of marriage. When people say they are happy that same-sex couples can finally marry, they never add “and can finally have sex.” The idea that same-sex marriage is good and moral is based on the utter rejection of the Christian teaching against premarital sex. It is based on the utter rejection of all sexual ethics.

So the path to reverse this societal acceptance of same-sex marriage must include the reverse of all three steps:
1. rejection of sex outside of marriage,
2. rejection of abortion and contraception,
3. rejection of unnatural sexual acts, whether in marriage or outside of marriage.

Until Christians accept the Christian teaching against all these grave sins, society is not going to reject gay marriage. For the problem of same-sex marriage began in Christianity. It began with the widespread rejection of Christian teaching, by most Christians, on the topic of sexual ethics.

Ronald L. Conte Jr.
Roman Catholic theologian and
translator of the Catholic Public Domain Version of the Bible.

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2 Responses to The Path to the Acceptance of Gay Marriage

  1. Matt says:

    Let’s not forget that it was the Supreme Court that ruled in Griswold vs. Connecticut that the birth control pill is legal. Also the Supreme Court ruled in Roe vs. Wade that abortion is legal. Also the Supreme Court ruled in June 2015 that same sex marriage is legal. The point is that the Supreme Court is very much guilty of these landmark decisions that enabled our society to engage then in the moral decay and destruction of the family unit these past 50 years.

    I wonder how things would be today if birth control pills and abortion were still ruled as illegal.

    • Ron Conte says:

      The Court is greatly influenced by the culture. And if the Court did not legalize these sins, then Congress would do so. In one way or another, when society approves of a grave sin, the laws will be changed to reflect that approval.

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